I just have to say that this is in no way, shape or form body/fat/skinny shaming anyone. I myself was a victim of fat shaming growing up. However, being too fat is as dangerous as being too skinny. BUT if you love your body, no matter what shape or size it is, then good on you! I support that more than anything. On the other hand, though, if you’re not happy with your body, consult a doctor, or a psychologist, DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT.
Growing up, I was quite okay with my body shape – neither skinny or fat. I was an average eater (if it is such a thing), and played football and tag like my life depended on it. I was active, participated in scholastic sports’ events and sometimes even won medals (okay, so I only won two in my whole life, but let’s just say I was okay in sports).
Fast forward to the hardest phase anyone goes through: puberty. I mean, not everyone would say that time in their was awful, especially those flat-chested girls who miraculously grew a pair almost overnight (hands up). While the grow-a-pair part was good while it lasted (excessiveness is another extremity), other things started happening… acne and weight gain to name a few.
The acne part was what bothered me at first. I’d get envious of other girls with flawless faces. I sometimes applied foundation, but the bumps still showed. I was a mess. Sometimes, I would even go to the extreme extent as to want to scratch the flawlessees’ faces. Just so they would look similar to me.
As if acne wasn’t enough of a problem, in comes gaining weight. No longer active in sports due to the constant bullying, I gained weight. Being taller than other girls didn’t help either. I was called ‘Shrek’ and ‘Big Guy’. Yes, Big Guy. Because I loved sports. And I was ‘big’ compared to the rest of my peers. this is what started my love/hate relationship with my body.
I’d go days without eating anything, or if I did eat, it would be something as little as two crackers. But then, I’d go on an eating rampage, until I was too full to move a muscle. This went on from the age of 11 until 20, which is just last year.
This year, however, I learnt to accept my body.
You’d be asking, “How the heck did you manage that?”
Here’s my secret… there is none! I did what other people do when they feel this way: got my fat, sad peach off my comfy desk chair and started exercising. It cleared my mind off of the negativity I had going through my mind, and helped me focus on loving my body. Yoga and going to the gym also helped. And yes, there were fit, skinny girls at the gym I attended. But that didn’t stop me. No, sir!
You know what else helped? Celebrities like these…
“I’ve seen a lot of comments that say, ‘Eat a sandwich’ or ‘She looks sick.’ I’ve been looking at myself in the mirror being mean to myself. I’m not sick. I eat sandwiches. I’ve shamed myself for it. We shame each other online. We’re always too skinny or too fat or too tall or too short. It bothers me because I care so much about young girls.” – Emma Stone
“I’m constantly criticised for being too skinny. I’m trying to gain weight but my body won’t let it happen. What people don’t understand is that calling someone too skinny is the same as calling someone too fat, it’s not a nice feeling.” – Kendall Jenner
“If a girl wears a bathing suit, she is a ho and is body-shamed. If you don’t show your body, you’re a prude. You take pictures with a guy and you’re a ho; you take pictures with a girlfriend and you’re a lesbian. I don’t understand how girls can sit there and pick one another apart.” – Bella Thorne
And the Preach It Gurl Award goes to…
“It was just the kind of s**t that actresses have to go through. Somebody told me I was fat, that I was going to get fired if I didn’t lose a certain amount of weight. They brought in pictures of me where I was basically naked, and told me to use them as motivation for my diet. They thought that because of the way my career had gone, it wouldn’t still hurt me. ‘If anybody even tries to whisper the word “diet”, I’m like, “You can go f*** yourself.” – (Queen) Jennifer Lawrence
So if you ever feel down about your body, or find it funny to call others for the way they look, (quoting Phil Collins) STOP. THINK TWICE. Your words can hurt yourself, but most of all how others perceive you.
Do NOT let anyone tell you how you should and shouldn’t look. Be proud of you. You are unique. There is no one like you. No one can do you better than you.
Love yourself. Love your body.